Posted by: Donna
At a Maricopa County air quality conference Rep. Ray Barnes felt it was necessary to let us gals know how illogical and emotional we are.
From the Capitol Times Yellow Sheet:
AND NOW, SOME RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FROM RAY BARNES
Ray Barnes didn’t make any female fans yesterday at a Maricopa County air quality conference. Speaking before the crowd, Barnes apparently started off praising Huppenthal, saying that he respects how “logical” the senator is. And Barnes stressed the need to get “emotion” out of politics. Women, Barnes apparently said according to those in the room, are too emotional and should be more logical, like men. That ignited grumbling in the crowd.
Ugh. Of all the annoying gender stereotypes, the men are logical/women are emotional dualism annoys me the most. Back in 1994, when I was in the Navy and stationed in Japan, I watched in fascination as an argument between two of the guys in the torpedo shop over whether Jean Claude Van Damme or Steven Seagal was the superior martial arts film icon escalated to a punching match. Yep, that was definitely an example of the steely-eyed, logical approach to the world for which men are so famous. That fact is that we humans, in general, are a messy and emotion driven lot, no matter what gender we are. I can tell you, based upon years of observing male culture up close in the military, and then several more years in a male dominated tech field, that the dudes are every bit as catty and gossipy and prone to throwing dramatic hissyfits over perceived slights as we gals are. Men are from Earth. Women are from Earth. And John Gray is from Uranus.
But I digress. Because I don’t want get all serious and detract from the…um…impact of the sage wisdom of Ray Barnes.
In an interview with our reporter, Barnes defended his statement, saying he actually said “most often women are more emotional than men.” But he wasn’t talking about the women in the audience, Barnes said. “When we go to an affair like that, you don’t see the weakest women, we see the strongest,” he clarified. “Weaker women don’t get involved,” he said. Those “weaker” women, Barnes said, are usually the ones who “stay home with the kids” or run home to the kitchen after work. “It’s a realistic comment,” Barnes said. “I don’t think it’s sexist. I married a woman because she’s a woman, not a man. I married a woman who doesn’t want to get involved in all those things.” Continuing, Barnes said he’s not saying that it’s a bad thing that the “weaker” women stay home with the kids. “As long as one member in the family is strong, it’s fine,” he said. “There’s got to be a passive and an aggressive.” Two “aggressives” in a relationship means World World III every day, he said. And two “passives,” he said, can’t even figure out when to throw the garbage out.
Okee dokee. So in accordance with the “logic” of Ray Barnes we are to understand the following: Women are too emotional, and need to be more logical. Like John Huppenthal is. OTOH, when women are logical, it makes them “aggressive”*, like the women in the audience at the Maricopa County air quality conference. See, being interested in issues causes nice passive marriageable lady brains to turn into logical aggressive John Huppenthal brains. Those are not the brains of the kind of women that Ray Barnes would want to marry. IOW, Ray Barnes does NOT want to marry a woman with a John Huppenthal brain. That would be too close to getting gay-married to John Huppenthal. And they wouldn’t be able to figure out how to take the garbage out. Or they’d be beating the crap out of each other while taking the trash out, aggressively. Are we clear on that?
*I’m not even going to get into my irritation with the men are aggressive/women are passive cultural assumption. We don’t have time for that.
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