On being a “cool straight chick” in the Navy.

20 Sep 2011 10:01 pm
Posted by: Donna

I was a Navy sailor from 1987 to 1997. Which means I joined when the so-called crime of sodomy was an offense against the Uniform Code of Military Justice and grounds for discharge without honor. Shortly after Bill Clinton was elected (whom I gladly cast a vote for because he promised to end the ban on gays serving openly in the military) the bizarrely awkward and flawed compromise policy of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell was enacted.

During my time in the Navy, several of my shipmates came out to me. They did so tentatively in some cases and in a matter-of-fact way in others. But they trusted me enough to share it with me and I’m honored that they did. Because it meant that for all my flaws, there was something about me that said to them, “she’s cool”. You know, when you’re a straight person with all the automatic and undeserved advantage that carries, that’s the highest compliment you can hope to get from people who don’t share your socially acceptable orientation. And being worthy of the description is the least you can do.

Happy end of DADT day to all gay servicemembers, past and present.

1 Comment(s)

  1. Comment by desertflower on September 25, 2011 4:22 pm

    Donna,
    Thanks for your service….wanted to let you know that if you haven’t seen the documentary on HBO about DADT…it is a must see. I think it’s called “The History of DADT” or something similar. Watch it.
    All I can say is, so glad that DADT is history! John McCain was SOOOOOOOOOOO NOT HAPPY! Sorry, but the dinosaur needs to retire now…the rest of us are so far past this even being an issue anymore. Anyway, just thought I would give you and anyone reading the head’s up about the HBO programming…you won’t be sorry.

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